support

Now that I am having doubts about C, I do what I always do when uncertain - turn to my friends.

Had lunch and drinks with several guy friends, and they all made me see that I have to resolve my own issues before proceeding with C. I don't ever have a set checklist for a partner because I am always changing. My only criterion is that the man has to be able to change with me.

Ironic. That's my reservation about C - can he change and grow with me?

A few things happened this week that made me feel that he is set in his ways, and I can only accommodate in order for the relationship to move on.

Still, it's nice to have the support from others. Plus, everyone is defending C, and that's a major plus. This is how I got over my last major breakup - by the time I told the story 50 times, it wasn't so bad. I have no shame in airing my dirty laundry b/c that's how I move on.