family tradition

It is rare to see fathers who are more hands on with the kids than the mothers. At a recent holiday dinner, I noticed that all three fathers at the table deferred to their wives to tend to the kids. That was not the case in my family even though my father worked full time. He was the one who made us breakfast, helped with homework, and pointed out the injustices and the realities of the world.

One of the best things about having a nephew is to see the passing of the torch of parenthood from my father to my brother. It makes me so happy to see that my ten-month-old nephew adores his father the way my siblings and I still adore ours.

Character

Having a lot of friends help me judge character, especially in the men in my life.

Whether romantic possibilities or simply a guy friend, the one quality that I dislike above all else is cowardiness.

Unfortunately, I have yet to meet a man who is as fearless as me.

Does that mean I am doomed and will be single forever? All I ask is that this man be strong enough that he can handle whatever comes his way.

Maybe in another 10 years...

be the light - part two

Although the breakup of this past week was disappointing because of his cowardliness, I chose to end it on a neutral note and put it behind me. The last conversation was like any other, except without the enthusiasm or making future plans. Neither one of us mentioned the actual breakup, but there was a mutual understanding that he and I will not speak or see each other further.

One concept in my spiritual practice is the flow of energy between people. If you are faced with negative energy, the key is to be grounded and to let it flow through. If you respond to the negative energy, you will attract more of it.

I firmly believe that most people who behave badly is because they were treated badly at one point. They were taught that it's okay to hurt other people, or they suffered and thus learned to lash out as a result. I don't want to contribute to that negative energy and attack the person who caused me pain. (Well, I more than cleared the negative energy by venting to my poor friends and family...)

So this little episode of horror will be on its way, because I want to let go of the negative energy and turn the tides. I want to think positively and remember the good times and look forward to finding the right person.