As long as I can remember, I had a strong sense of self. Doing things my own way is being me.
In this world where most things are measured by set standards, being different has not been easy.
Instead of doing things in order or play it safe, I take one risk after another. It's impossible for me to accept status quo or what is ordinary.
The upside is that I have forgotten how to worry or judge myself. It's liberating to focus on my own wants and desire. It's also easy to be generous because I choose to give.
Life has rewarded me by providing numerous opportunities. I worked at interesting jobs, traveled, loved, and had my heart broken and mended several times.
This spiritual journey is what's next. I am glad for this break. The best is yet to come.
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Thursday, November 13, 2008
power of a woman
Some of my girlfriends are feeling the inevitable effects of aging: men stopped calling. With mostly traditional roles of wife and mother offered as necessary for happiness, I can sense some of the sadness setting in.
Since when do independent capable women need a man to be complete?
Fortunately, I have several women in my life who have not followed traditional paths. By choice or by fate, these wome, all over 45, who don't have husbands or kids and are leading impressive lives. From my female relatives and friends, I also know that having a partner and kids may cause unhappiness rather than bring fulfillment.
The key to happiness is the balance of accepting reality and taking control. A woman must accept herself completely and stand up for what she wants. She must be aware of the social beliefs and attitudes surrounding her, however unfair, and make her own rules.
It is healthy to hope for love, but to expect it will only bring misery. It's a fine line between needing a man and wanting a man. I hope to always be able to enjoy having a guy in my life, but I have been without it enough to know that it's not a sure thing.
So let the men call or not call. Life goes on, and a woman must go on living her life to fullest, man or no man.
Since when do independent capable women need a man to be complete?
Fortunately, I have several women in my life who have not followed traditional paths. By choice or by fate, these wome, all over 45, who don't have husbands or kids and are leading impressive lives. From my female relatives and friends, I also know that having a partner and kids may cause unhappiness rather than bring fulfillment.
The key to happiness is the balance of accepting reality and taking control. A woman must accept herself completely and stand up for what she wants. She must be aware of the social beliefs and attitudes surrounding her, however unfair, and make her own rules.
It is healthy to hope for love, but to expect it will only bring misery. It's a fine line between needing a man and wanting a man. I hope to always be able to enjoy having a guy in my life, but I have been without it enough to know that it's not a sure thing.
So let the men call or not call. Life goes on, and a woman must go on living her life to fullest, man or no man.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
look at him now
"People have been doubting me my whole life. Nothing new. I'm not going to hold it against them. If they doubt me, let them watch and see what the end result is. I don't let them bring me down like they used to." Tim Lincecum, 2008 Cy Young Award winner
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