Ever since undergrad, I have been drawn to power. People who have power fascinated me.
Power is the ability to get things done. Whether it is mobilizing people or executing plans, those who can create results earn my respect.
To me, wealth and fame are not power. They may be the consequences of power and are often bestowed on those who are powerful. The two tests that I apply to determine who is powerful is 1. realize visions and 2. garner respect. People who can bring dreams to reality and earn others' respect are powerful.
I want to be powerful!
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
magic of love
C and I decided to give the relationship another try.
We had a good conversation about exploring the important things: what it means to be there for each other, how to intertwine our lives, money, maybe have a family together, and how to have a great relationship.
My gut was right last week to break things up because we had not had any of these key discussions. At the same time, I could not expect C to read my mind that these things were important.
Glad C stepped up. Even happier that he was thinking about all the same issues. Yes, we are lucky to have love after so many years of being alone. In some ways, the love was the easy part because we both longed for it.
Now, the real conversations begin.
We had a good conversation about exploring the important things: what it means to be there for each other, how to intertwine our lives, money, maybe have a family together, and how to have a great relationship.
My gut was right last week to break things up because we had not had any of these key discussions. At the same time, I could not expect C to read my mind that these things were important.
Glad C stepped up. Even happier that he was thinking about all the same issues. Yes, we are lucky to have love after so many years of being alone. In some ways, the love was the easy part because we both longed for it.
Now, the real conversations begin.
Monday, June 16, 2008
female power
After celebrating Father's Day, I went to share my mentor's daughter's ballet recital. She had the biggest smile of all the girls on stage. I felt proud!
A group of us went to dinner after the performance. We were lucky to take over a no-show table as many families were celebrating.
The interesting fact was that our group did not have one single male. It was seven women and two girls. What a great evening, especially for the girls. The evening reminded me of my childhood where I am often in all-women groups with my mother and her friends.
I often wondered about the consequences of single parenthood, but seeing how happy K is through the years, I don't think she missed out much by not having a dad. She is constantly surrounded by people who love her, especially confidant women. The irony is that watching my mentor's experience has ruled out single parenthood for me; I will need that partner to do some of the caretaking!
Although I am still uncertain about whether I will ever be a mother, I do know that I will continue to connect to old and young people. To be loved by so many women is not the same as having a man, but it's more than enough for now.
A group of us went to dinner after the performance. We were lucky to take over a no-show table as many families were celebrating.
The interesting fact was that our group did not have one single male. It was seven women and two girls. What a great evening, especially for the girls. The evening reminded me of my childhood where I am often in all-women groups with my mother and her friends.
I often wondered about the consequences of single parenthood, but seeing how happy K is through the years, I don't think she missed out much by not having a dad. She is constantly surrounded by people who love her, especially confidant women. The irony is that watching my mentor's experience has ruled out single parenthood for me; I will need that partner to do some of the caretaking!
Although I am still uncertain about whether I will ever be a mother, I do know that I will continue to connect to old and young people. To be loved by so many women is not the same as having a man, but it's more than enough for now.
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