My nephew is almost five months now, and he is the cutest baby ever. What's been amazing about his arrival is that he has brought the family closer.
Not only do I have an excuse to visit my brother more because of the baby, but the rest of the family gather more frequently.
Observations about B has become ways to connect the entire family. Who he looks like (my sister-in-law's father) and behaves like (me). Why he is so chubby/large for his age. Who is the best at caring for him (my brother!).
Being around a helpless baby makes everyone more caring and feel a sense of purpose.
Having B in my life still makes me neutral about having kids. Still, I am glad my brother and sister-in-law decide to start their family. B has been a little miracle to our family.
Thursday, June 26, 2008
transition to friendship
Perhaps the biggest reason that C and I are breaking up is because we never became good friends. The romance took over (and what a romance!), so we were never equipped to deal with our differences, especially timing.
So in an effort to help each other move on, we are going to work on our friendship.
Things are off to an okay start. We are talking, but I did get mad and yell at him last night for two sentences. That's a good sign b/c I don't have to placate to him any more.
Now do you know why this blog is called this? ;)
It's so ironic. The first time I broke up with C, I felt he wasn't serious about where the relationship is going. Then he made a 180 and was suffocating me. He was trying so hard because he didn't want to lose me. In the end, it just wasn't meant to be.
So in an effort to help each other move on, we are going to work on our friendship.
Things are off to an okay start. We are talking, but I did get mad and yell at him last night for two sentences. That's a good sign b/c I don't have to placate to him any more.
Now do you know why this blog is called this? ;)
It's so ironic. The first time I broke up with C, I felt he wasn't serious about where the relationship is going. Then he made a 180 and was suffocating me. He was trying so hard because he didn't want to lose me. In the end, it just wasn't meant to be.
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
confirmation
Last night, I ice skated on my b-day with C as I requested.
The dinner afterwards was not the intimate dinner for two. Instead, C surprised me by inviting several of my friends. We had a group dinner for 9.
The unexpected turn of events confirmed that C and I can only move on as friends.
Although I often host group events, and my friends are very dear to me, last night's event was the opposite of what I consider a successful event. When I plan, I try to be mindful of people's budget. Asking someone to spend over $100 for a dinner is not fun in my book. It was especially tough for L and J who didn't drink at all and subsidized everyone else.
Group dinners are reserved for close friends of the same group. Most of my friends at the dinner last night barely know each other, and many of them met for the first time. A sit-down dinner forces people to converse only with those next to them. Our group of nine was more like a business dinner.
Mostly, I was tired and did not expect to socialize with such a large group. I had planned my own group gathering for later this week, after I recovered from my weekend trip in LA.
In the end, last night was a confirmation of what I felt two weeks ago - the connection I once had with C was lost. We had a great time but are not meant to be in a relationship long term.
I am sad but also glad to be moving on.
The dinner afterwards was not the intimate dinner for two. Instead, C surprised me by inviting several of my friends. We had a group dinner for 9.
The unexpected turn of events confirmed that C and I can only move on as friends.
Although I often host group events, and my friends are very dear to me, last night's event was the opposite of what I consider a successful event. When I plan, I try to be mindful of people's budget. Asking someone to spend over $100 for a dinner is not fun in my book. It was especially tough for L and J who didn't drink at all and subsidized everyone else.
Group dinners are reserved for close friends of the same group. Most of my friends at the dinner last night barely know each other, and many of them met for the first time. A sit-down dinner forces people to converse only with those next to them. Our group of nine was more like a business dinner.
Mostly, I was tired and did not expect to socialize with such a large group. I had planned my own group gathering for later this week, after I recovered from my weekend trip in LA.
In the end, last night was a confirmation of what I felt two weeks ago - the connection I once had with C was lost. We had a great time but are not meant to be in a relationship long term.
I am sad but also glad to be moving on.
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