Some of my girlfriends are feeling the inevitable effects of aging: men stopped calling. With mostly traditional roles of wife and mother offered as necessary for happiness, I can sense some of the sadness setting in.
Since when do independent capable women need a man to be complete?
Fortunately, I have several women in my life who have not followed traditional paths. By choice or by fate, these wome, all over 45, who don't have husbands or kids and are leading impressive lives. From my female relatives and friends, I also know that having a partner and kids may cause unhappiness rather than bring fulfillment.
The key to happiness is the balance of accepting reality and taking control. A woman must accept herself completely and stand up for what she wants. She must be aware of the social beliefs and attitudes surrounding her, however unfair, and make her own rules.
It is healthy to hope for love, but to expect it will only bring misery. It's a fine line between needing a man and wanting a man. I hope to always be able to enjoy having a guy in my life, but I have been without it enough to know that it's not a sure thing.
So let the men call or not call. Life goes on, and a woman must go on living her life to fullest, man or no man.
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