I have always been very public with my life, including with communications breakdown with the latest guy. Rather than trying to hide the ups and downs, I am open about it all because it allows me to move forward peacefully.
Lately, one common theme I noticed in meeting new people (especially the singles) is that the baggage from past breakups and insecurities can be a big part of their identity. The inability of letting go of the past can weight them down.
I get caught up by my past too, but being very open has a therapeutic effect. By telling the story of my boo-boos a few times to different friends, my wounds often heal quite quickly. It does help to have loved ones help laugh off the unexplained events.
The key is to not project negativity on the other parties involved, especially if I don't understand. Other people's decisions, words, and actions are for me to accept. Any rejection or projected anger/frustration only fuel the negative energy.
It isn't easy to be uplifted and let the unpleasant feelings wash through. Still, having had so much practice dealing with challenges in my professional and personal lives does make life a lot easier.
I never expected to be unemployed and single, but life has gotten much easier because I have found my peace.
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